Why are people afraid to talk to others in public ?
Meeting
someone new is always a difficult task because you will never know how the
first impression might turnout. When seeing that pretty girl or guy on the
street, inside your brain you are thinking 'damn if only' but in reality you
just keep walking and go on with your day. Why is that? Why cannot we break the
habit of seeing someone pretty and just say something? My analogy is people are
afraid of denial.
Denial
can affect a person very dearly because it is kind of embarrassing being turned
down. Being denied by a family member in your house is very different than
being denied by a person on a train or at a restaurant. I realized that it is
easier to talk to someone based on the certain environment you are in. On the
train everyone wants to get home without encountering a crazy man doing a
ridiculous stunt. If you were in a bar where the atmosphere is supposed to be
social the ability to have conversation is much easier.
Now
I am not saying it is impossible to get a pretty girls number on the train or
bus, it is just not an easy task. In my life I am trying to get the confidence
to just walk up to an attractive woman and speak to her. I am not an awkward
person but I am not Brad Pitt either. When known by others, people will tend to
attempt to speak to you. Well in my generation they will just stare and look
away when they turn their head in your direction. The only way to get rid of
that fear is practice! Ignore all of the worries and consequences just be brave
and hope he or she responds in a respectful manner. If it does not turn out
well you can just say you tried. There is nothing shameful about that.
